ADHD in High School: Helping Teens Manage Symptoms https://www.additudemag.com ADHD symptom tests, ADD medication & treatment, behavior & discipline, school & learning essentials, organization and more information for families and individuals living with attention deficit and comorbid conditions Wed, 22 May 2024 18:57:29 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.3 https://i0.wp.com/www.additudemag.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/cropped-additude-favicon-512x512-1.png?w=32&crop=0%2C0px%2C100%2C32px&ssl=1 ADHD in High School: Helping Teens Manage Symptoms https://www.additudemag.com 32 32 25 Must-Read Parenting Articles from ADDitude https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/parenting-a-child-with-adhd-articles/ https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/parenting-a-child-with-adhd-articles/#respond Mon, 09 Oct 2023 08:43:59 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?post_type=slideshow&p=340462 https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/parenting-a-child-with-adhd-articles/feed/ 0 Neurodiversity at School: A 10-Part Guide for Parents & Teachers https://www.additudemag.com/neurodivergence-at-school-parents-teachers/ https://www.additudemag.com/neurodivergence-at-school-parents-teachers/#respond Thu, 13 Jul 2023 20:06:02 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=335570

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How to Establish Learning Habits That Pay Dividends Forever https://www.additudemag.com/what-to-do-after-high-school-support-your-kid-adhd/ https://www.additudemag.com/what-to-do-after-high-school-support-your-kid-adhd/#respond Wed, 22 Feb 2023 10:32:41 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=323634

What’s the secret to raising successful kids? The answer is simple and complex: seeing and supporting them fully.

When a child feels secure in their caregivers’ love and encouragement, strong self-confidence and self-esteem naturally follow suit. When a child’s ADHD is fully recognized and understood, that is when their strengths get unlocked and futures become clear. How do you get from here to there? One step at a time.

Step One: Learn Everything About ADHD

ADHD is like an iceberg. The complexities beneath its surface (including its high co-occurrence with other conditions) are seldom recognized and often criticized unfairly, leading many children with ADHD to develop damaging self-beliefs. They are not lazy or unmotivated or slow; they have a unique neurological footprint. Understanding and communicating that is key.

ADHD and Executive Function Deficits

ADHD impairs executive function — the brain skills we use to succeed in school, work, and other realms of life. You and your child must understand that deficits in executive skills makes it difficult to…

  • …be on time
  • …get started on tasks
  • …juggle information in the mind
  • …initiate work independently
  • …set priorities
  • …be organized
  • …complete long-term projects
  • …submit work on time
  • …remain calm in stressful situations

ADHD and Delayed Maturity

Maturation of the ADHD brain lags about three to five years behind that of the non-ADHD brain.1 The delay affects the brain’s prefrontal regions, which control the aforementioned executive functions and other important cognitive processes. What does this mean? You need to adjust your expectations about your middle schooler or high schooler in comparison to their peers. Developmentally, your 14-year-old’s “executive age” may be closer to 11 or 12 years old, for example. As is the case for many people with ADHD, your child might experience a maturation spurt in their early 20s as the brain continues to develop.

[Get This Free Download: Explaining the ADHD Iceberg to Teachers]

Learning Challenges

As many as 45% of children with ADHD have a learning difference like dyslexia, dyscalculia, dysgraphia, or another condition that requires academic supports.2  It’s also common for students with ADHD to have learning challenges that affect written expression, memorization of facts, reading comprehension, complex multi-step math, and other areas. Be sure that your child understands how both their ADHD and learning differences show up in the classroom.

As you teach your child about ADHD, be sure to separate them from the condition. Depersonalize ADHD when you approach your child; educate and give your child a choice. Say something like “People with ADHD have trouble getting started, and I’ve noticed that sometimes that’s a challenge for you.”

Step Two: Establish Learning Habits for Ongoing Support

From disorganization to tardiness, the challenges that children and young teens face in middle and high school are essentially the same challenges that exist in college and at work. Identify your child’s unique learning and executive function challenges early on so that they can receive accommodations and practice using appropriate tools and compensatory strategies in school and beyond.

Bolster Executive Function Skills

For Help with Task Initiation

  • Use timers, alerts, or verbal reminders to indicate that it’s time to start. Present these tools as choices to your child to increase compliance. Say, “Do you want to set a timer to start your homework or do you want me to remind you to get started?” Perhaps you may even have to sit with your child to help them get started.
  • Review the instructions together. Have your child contact a classmate if the assignment is unclear.
  • Start with physical activity. Some children focus better while moving, so let your child walk around and read if it helps with task initiation.
  • Work in 10-20 minute chunks with breaks in between so that your child can reenergize their brain. This helps make the task feel less overwhelming.

[Read: Where Do I Start?!? How to Organize and Initiate a Big Project]

For Help with Time Awareness

  • Externalize time. Use devices and tools like smartwatches, wrist devices, analog clocks, visual timers, smartphones, paper calendars, and white boards as appropriate to make time (an abstract concept) and important events (due dates, extracurriculars, etc.) stand out visually.
  • Practice time estimation. Ask your child how long they think a task like homework will take them. Record their answer and compare it to the actual time to gauge and enhance their time awareness. Typically, students are surprised that the work takes less time than they predicted. Similarly, ask your child how long they think it takes to get to their first class of the day on time. Make sure your child accounts for things like getting ready, traffic, parking the car, walking to the building, going to their locker, saying hello to friends, and “oops” time.
  • Schedule backwards. Make it a habit to start with the end in mind as a best planning practice. Scheduling backwards for a long-term school project, for example, will help your child see how far in advance they must start working.
  • Ask others for help staying on task. Teachers, for example, can gently redirect your child if they get distracted. You can also ask a classmate to help keep your child on task with a signal.

To Enhance Working Memory and Help Your Child Remember

  • Link new with old. Tie in new material to your child’s prior knowledge to reinforce learning.
  • Information in multiple formats — posters, photos, video, hands-on projects, texts, graphic organizers, maps, and other mediums and tools — help to convey information.
  • “Read to the clip.” Place a paper clip after every 8 to 10 pages of a long reading assignment, and have your child read until they get to the clip. This will segment the text and give your child time to digest information. Also, consider having your child write key text points on sticky notes as they read.
  • Talk about it. The more your child talks about what they learned, the more likely they are to remember it.
  • Use mnemonics. Set new information to the tune of your child’s favorite song, a rhyme, or an acronym. Humor helps jog memory, too.
  • Short water and snack breaks give your child’s brain time to reenergize and reengage with information.
  • Allow fidgeting or some movement to enhance concentration. The more difficult the task, the more movement required.

To Stay Organized

  • A planner or organizer, whether digital or paper, is a must for all students.
  • Color-code and use different folders for each class.
  • Do a weekly bookbag cleanup together. Sort through papers and don’t throw out any documents until the end of the year, just in case they are needed.
  • Keep a launch pad — a single place for your child’s bookbag, school supplies, and other must-haves — by the door. Place completed work and book bags on the launch pad the night before.
  • Establish a homework routine. Agree on a start time and location. (Present them as choices to your child.) Double check assignments wherever they are posted (on paper, text, apps, the school’s online portal, etc.)
  • Divide long-term projects into small segments to keep your child engaged. If possible, have the teacher assign due dates to the smaller segments and grade them.
  • Monitor your child’s progress on homework and long-term projects for additional support.
  • Ask the teacher for a sample of a completed long-term assignment for your child’s reference.

For Effective Studying

  • Practice exams are great for previewing questions and concepts.
  • Distributed study sessions will always be better than cramming. Your child should spend about 15 minutes reviewing for a test the night prior.
  • Moderate exercise prior to studying can prime your child’s brain for maximum focus and retention.
  • Slowly sipping a sugary drink can boost alertness as your child’s studies.

Step Three: Explore a Variety of Careers and Interests

Expose your child to as many careers as you can while they are in middle school and high school.

  • Follow your child’s interests and skills. Seek lessons in music, acting, art, sports, robotics, gaming, and other activities they enjoy. You want your child to gravitate to a career that aligns with their best self.
  • Match your teen to a summer job or a volunteer (shadow) position that aligns with their interests.
  • Investigate the school’s career and college resources like career interest inventories/aptitude tests, career days, counseling services, transition plans, etc.

What to Do After High School? Don’t Fear the Gap Year

Many students with ADHD and learning differences rush into college without a clear path. As a result of this premature launch, they flounder and may ultimately drop out. A gap year can help your child plan out their future, increase their confidence, and seamlessly transition to a new, challenging environment. Most teens and young adults go to college within a year of the gap year experience, and colleges are eager to admit students with such experience.

If a gap year is the best option for your child, work together to create a structured gap year plan. Your child’s gap year may involve taking one community college or technical class, and working part-time or volunteering in a field of interest, for example. Ultimately, the goal is to help your child identify a career path.

Step Four: Prioritize a Positive Parent-Child Relationship

Experiencing success in school does wonders for a child, but grades don’t necessarily predict success in life. More often, happiness and wellbeing flow from a positive parent-child relationship.

  • Protect and treasure your relationship with your child. Focus on the good and elevate your child’s strengths. Give yourself an attitude check-up if you are fixating on negatives.
  • Manage your expectations. You will have to support your child longer than other caregivers, but it’s what your child needs. Give yourself permission to be involved and to do whatever it takes to help your child succeed. Be patient as you give your child the gift of time to help them become more and reach their full potential. By working together, you will get there.

What to Do After High School: Next Steps

The content for this article was derived, in part, from the ADDitude ADHD Experts webinar titled, “Getting Ready to Launch: Setting Up Middle and High School Students for Success and Independence” [Video Replay & Podcast #425],” with Chris Dendy, M.S., which was broadcast on October 13, 2022.


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1 Shaw, P., Eckstrand, K., Sharp, W., Blumenthal, J., Lerch, J. P., Greenstein, D., Clasen, L., Evans, A., Giedd, J., & Rapoport, J. L. (2007). Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder is characterized by a delay in cortical maturation. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences of the United States of America, 104(49), 19649–19654. https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.0707741104

2 DuPaul, G. J., Gormley, M. J., & Laracy, S. D. (2013). Comorbidity of LD and ADHD: implications of DSM-5 for assessment and treatment. Journal of Learning Disabilities, 46(1), 43–51. https://doi.org/10.1177/0022219412464351

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Q: “How Can I Prepare My ADHD Teen for 9th Grade?” https://www.additudemag.com/9th-grade-adhd-student-preparing-for-high-school/ https://www.additudemag.com/9th-grade-adhd-student-preparing-for-high-school/#respond Fri, 10 Feb 2023 10:52:34 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=322309 Q: “My teen with ADHD will enter high school in the fall. How can I help him prepare for the academic demands and higher expectations in 9th grade?”


Ninth grade is a big leap for kids with ADHD, whose emotional maturity and executive functioning may lag a few years behind that of their neurotypical peers. Your teen will be navigating a new school (and the stress of finding classrooms), new teachers, new peers, and more advanced classwork while undergoing hormonal changes and new social dynamics. These pressures can exacerbate ADHD symptoms or reveal related difficulties.

6 Tips for 9th Grade

Help your teen meet the new challenges of high school with the following tips:

[Free Download: Transform Your Teen’s Apathy Into Engagement]

  1. Build skills. Identify your teen’s true emotional maturity. For example, does your 8th grader relate to others on a 5th-grade level? Consider what skills will be essential in high school and what you can do together to build them. For example, you might coach your teen on how to respond to teachers and role-play the interactions so he can practice using a respectful tone. Reflecting on situations your teen has navigated successfully in middle school also builds confidence. Offer reassurance and support.
  2. Get organized. Buy school supplies early, if possible, and set up a desk or a quiet place in the home for your teen to do his schoolwork. Create a routine for organizing your teen’s backpack and notebooks. Get familiar with the school’s website and apps for viewing classes, assignments, events, and grades.
  3. Review accommodations. You and your teen should review his IEP or 504 Plan before school begins to ensure he has appropriate accommodations. If these supports fall short, your teen should be prepared to advocate for himself.
  4. Listen up. After a tiring day of holding it together in school, your teen’s anxiety may worsen when he gets home. Be calm and accepting. Ask open-ended questions to gain insight. Create an atmosphere where your teen feels heard and can safely express his fears and concerns.
  5. Work on time management. Help your teen assess the time required to complete a project or assignment. Then use time-tracking apps that let your teen set time markers for each step of a task from beginning through completion.
  6. Encourage study buddies. Study groups and tutors can help lighten your teen’s memory load. Peer support and mentor programs may also help teens with ADHD navigate the social dynamics at school. Is your teen interested in tennis or swimming? Joining a sports team and pairing up with an older student on that team can foster a feeling of belonging and support.

9th Grade Readiness: Next Steps


Caroline Maguire, M.Ed., ACCG, PCC, is the author of Why Will No One Play with Me?

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5 ADHD Roadblocks That Undermine Academic Achievement — and How to Help https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/academic-achievement-strategies-for-students-with-adhd-poll/ https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/academic-achievement-strategies-for-students-with-adhd-poll/#respond Tue, 24 Jan 2023 22:52:35 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?post_type=slideshow&p=321161 https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/academic-achievement-strategies-for-students-with-adhd-poll/feed/ 0 7 Executive Functioning Deficits That Deflate Motivation for Teens with ADHD https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/executive-functioning-skills-motivation-for-teenager-adhd/ https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/executive-functioning-skills-motivation-for-teenager-adhd/#comments Thu, 12 Jan 2023 00:34:18 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?post_type=slideshow&p=319584 https://www.additudemag.com/slideshows/executive-functioning-skills-motivation-for-teenager-adhd/feed/ 1 Motivation for Teens with ADHD: How It Crumbles and Why https://www.additudemag.com/motivation-for-teens-with-adhd-poll/ https://www.additudemag.com/motivation-for-teens-with-adhd-poll/#respond Wed, 09 Nov 2022 18:25:49 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=316545 “I don’t care.”
“It’s pointless.”
“Why bother?”

When motivation wanes (or outright vanishes) in teens with ADHD, it happens for many reasons. Sometimes, years of criticism and corrections simply break the camel’s back. Often, the executive function demands of middle or high school exceed a child’s skill set. And clearly the onset of puberty — with its heightened moodiness, pre-menstrual symptoms, and social distractions — impacts nearly everyone.

Regardless of its trigger, depleted motivation tends to look and sound quite similar across teens with ADHD. In a recent ADDitude poll, we asked nearly 1,000 caregivers, “When your teen opts out of schoolwork or activities, which of the following are they most likely to say is the reason?” Here are the answers they gave:

  • I forgot: 20.31%
  • I’m too tired: 14.03%
  • The teacher never told us about it: 11.56%
  • It’s too hard: 11.52%
  • I didn’t understand what the teacher wanted: 11.37%
  • I ran out of time; I’m too busy: 10.54%
  • What’s the point? I’ll never use this in life: 9.7%
  • I’ll work harder/do better on the next one: 6.54%
  • I’m already doing badly in this class: 4.32%

Comments and questions from survey respondents suggest that ADHD contributes to motivation problems in a few key areas:

Motivation Hurdle #1: ADHD Craving for Novelty

“Mine always says the schoolwork is too boring… what can I do about that response?”

“Our child won’t do the work if it’s too hard or too easy. Rewards or threats of taking away things don’t move the needle of motivation. Nothing works.”

Motivation Hurdle #2: Far-Off Rewards Don’t Work

“I find that consequences of taking things away have no effect on my teen (16 years old), and it will often cause him to get into a negative, cascading emotional state. It seems better to allow him to still do something he hasn’t earned while he’s fighting the battle to find the internal motivation to do what he needs to do.”

Motivation Hurdle #3: The ‘Why’ Is Missing from Schoolwork

“I actually agree with my teen’s ‘What’s the point’ point of view. The curriculum isn’t relevant to the things he needs to know to be successful in life, eg writing non-fiction & arguments well (instead of so much time analyzing literature), and managing finances (rather than advanced theoretical math). Yet there are no alternatives offered at school, and he ends up unable to concentrate in a boring class and feels like a failure (though eager to learn in relevant out-of-school interests!).”

Motivation Hurdle #4: Battered Self-Esteem

“How do you motivate a 15-year-old with ADHD/ODD to get back on track with school? He went from As & Bs his freshman year to failing almost every subject this year. And he’s also mildly gifted.”

Motivation Hurdle #5: Disrupted Routines Destroy Momentum

“How to help a recent high school graduate who used to have to get up for school and function during a full school day, that now can’t get up before noon, doesn’t have a job, and isn’t motivated to engage with the world. Without the structure of school he is floundering.”

To learn more about the common hurdles to motivation among teens with ADHD, and to hear expert solutions for overcoming those hurdles, listen to the ADDitude Expert Webinar “My Teen with ADHD Lacks All Motivation” by Maggie Sibley, Ph.D., which was broadcast live on November 9, 2022.

Motivation for Teens with ADHD: Next Steps

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A Free Back-to-School Master Class from ADDitude https://www.additudemag.com/download/adhd-school-master-class-ceus-teachers-parents/ https://www.additudemag.com/download/adhd-school-master-class-ceus-teachers-parents/#respond Fri, 02 Sep 2022 17:32:32 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?post_type=download&p=311629 Welcome to ADDitude’s self-guided master class designed to explain and solve the Top 10 learning hurdles facing students with ADHD and other learning differences.

This course, featuring instructional videos from the world’s foremost experts in neurodivergent education, will guide parents and educators through a full syllabus of 51 webinar replays, 72 essential articles, 33 expert Q&As, 39 downloadable resources to share, 17 self-tests, 33 expert Q&As, 15 supplemental videos, and more.

Each lesson revolves around a common challenge for neurodivergent students:

  • Learning Hurdle #1: ADHD Misinformation (How to educate educators on ADHD and recognize early signs of ADHD in the classroom)
  • Learning Hurdle #2: ADHD Accommodations (How to advocate for your child, secure an effective IEP or 504 Plan, and ensure it’s being followed)
  • Learning Hurdle #3: Distractibility and Inattention (How to help students hear and follow directions without losing focus or interest)
  • Learning Hurdle #4: Weak Executive Functions (How to bolster executive function skills commonly impacted by ADHD, including working memory, prioritization, and time management)
  • Learning Hurdle #5: Behavior Challenges (How to address and prevent the classroom behaviors that interfere with learning such as interrupting, hitting, and fidgeting)
  • Learning Hurdle #6: Homework Problems (How to help students accurately log, prioritize, complete, and hand in assignments on time)
  • Learning Hurdle #7: Learning Differences (How to best serve and teach students who have dyslexia, dysgraphia, dyscalculia, auditory processing, dyspraxia, and other learning differences)
  • Learning Hurdle #8: Social Struggles (How to teach social and emotional-regulation skills so that kids can make and keep friends more easily)
  • Learning Hurdle #9: School Collaboration (How to facilitate and participate in parent-teacher-student cooperation and communication, particularly around accommodations)
  • Learning Hurdle #10: Motivation and Resilience (How to build internal and external motivation to encourage resilience in students when they face school challenges)

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“Getting Ready to Launch: Setting Up Middle and High School Students for Success and Independence” [Video Replay & Podcast #425] https://www.additudemag.com/webinar/school-success-independence-teens-adhd/ https://www.additudemag.com/webinar/school-success-independence-teens-adhd/#respond Wed, 24 Aug 2022 18:35:59 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?post_type=webinar&p=311322 Episode Description

For teens who have ADHD, leaping from middle school to high school, and from high school to college or to full-time employment, is an especially big transition. Research has shown that ADHD can delay a young person’s maturation and executive functioning skills by as much as three years, making big transitions trickier to navigate. Preparing your middle schooler for the new demands of high school, and setting up your high school student for life away from home, and the tasks required to maintain that independence, requires patience and effort.

In this webinar, parents and caregivers will learn:

  • Approaches to foster smooth transitions into young adulthood for older teens
  • Strategies to improve problem-solving skills and foster independent living
  • Tactics to build and improve executive function skills that are appropriate for your child’s capabilities
  • Goal-setting to improve your child’s self-reliance

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Chris Dendy, M.S., is recognized nationally and internationally as a leader in the ADHD field. She has written four books, including Teenagers with ADD, ADHD, and Executive Function Deficits (#CommissionsEarned), and her latest book, Launching into Young Adulthood with ADHD … Ready or Not! (#CommissionsEarned), which she co-authored with Ruth Hughes.

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Q: “How Do I Get My Embarrassed Teen to Use Her ADHD Accommodations?” https://www.additudemag.com/resource-room-adhd-accommodations-teen-high-school/ https://www.additudemag.com/resource-room-adhd-accommodations-teen-high-school/#respond Tue, 26 Jul 2022 09:55:59 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=309279 Q: “My teen daughter has ADHD and is embarrassed to receive and use the accommodations set up for her at school. She hates being pulled from class for services that we made sure she received in her IEP. How should we handle this?”


It is not uncommon for students to feel embarrassed when they are pulled out of the classroom for any kind of learning difference (LD) or ADHD accommodations. No student wants to feel “exposed” for their neurodivergence. To avoid this, some kids deny the critical need for additional services or question whether the payoff is worth the emotional price of getting assistance. For either group, we suggest our WORD model for engaging kids in IEPs and 504 Plans.

Willingness

As parents, we spend a lot of time thinking about what our children want. Does any teen really want to go to school, much less a resource room? Most kids are willing to go to school because they have friends there, and they know there’s a higher purpose in learning. Willingness means tolerating painful feelings because you value what you can get from the experience.

On the Team

In my practice, we achieve high compliance, both in the use of medication and psychotherapy, because we tell teens at intake that they are not only on the team; they are the team leaders. If you don’t have a teen’s membership on the team, you don’t have buy-in or willingness, and you’re sunk. Likewise, we encourage teens to lead their IEP or 504 Plan meetings and, with adult support, to express their needs, critiques, and concerns. They should always be taken seriously.

Teens smell inauthenticity a mile away, so an invitation to lead the team must be genuine, even when it hurts the adults to relinquish control.

[Self-Test: Do I Have ADHD? The Ultimate Quiz for Teen Girls]

Reward vs. Risk

Perpetually assess the value added (or lost) by using LD or ADHD accommodations. If your teen uses the resource room for one grading period and it isn’t paying off, then change the plan. Using rewards to persuade your child to attend and participate in the IEP or 504 Plan can work well.

The most profitable thing I’ve ever done with my kids is pay them for behaviors I wanted to reinforce — and schoolwork is front and center in that plan. This is not “bribing” kids. It’s behavior modification, and it works if the reward outweighs any painful or uncomfortable downside so that the teen becomes willing.

Discretion

Inclusion room teachers are rarely trained in special education. Some are great at quietly supporting students who need to step out for services. Others are far from subtle, calling out, “Jordan, it’s time for your reading class!” If your teen reports the latter, talk with the teacher and include in the IEP that the dismissal will be done with minimal interruption. If a prompt is needed, a tap on the shoulder or a hand gesture would work.

Teens thrive when they understand and accept the value of IEP support services. For parents, it’s important to accept that, in the end, teens really are in charge of their own willingness and participation.

[Free Download: IEP vs. 504 Plan – What’s the Difference?]

ADHD Accommodations: Next Steps

Wes Crenshaw, Ph.D., co-author of ADD and Zombies: Fearless Medication Management for ADD and ADHD, and author of I Always Want to Be Where I’m Not: Successful Living with ADD and ADHD.


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Q: “How Can I Help My Overwhelmed Rising Senior Prepare for Next Year?” https://www.additudemag.com/rising-senior-year-adhd-college/ https://www.additudemag.com/rising-senior-year-adhd-college/#respond Tue, 03 May 2022 11:37:05 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=300182 Q: “I want to help my daughter prepare for her senior year of high school. The year is almost over, and I don’t want the summer to go by and senior year to just hit us with homework, activities, a job, SAT exams, college visits and applications, and a million other things. She has ADHD and gets easily overwhelmed. What do you suggest we do over the summer to prepare so she can handle it when we’re in the thick of things? Thanks! — SeniorMom


Hi SeniorMom!

You are right. The senior year of high school is busy. Soon your daughter will be juggling homework, activities and clubs, a part-time job, college entrance exams, applications, campus visits, and so much more. You’re wise to use the less-hectic summer months to prepare. Anything you can get done before Fall — will help your daughter feel less overwhelmed and more organized as she begins the new school year.

Rising Senior in High School: Preparation Tips

Here are some of my favorite preparation tips for a rising senior in high school.

1. Use an Academic Planner. I can’t stress this enough. Whether she uses a paper planner or an electronic calendar, make sure it includes these two features:

  • The layout of the planner should be set up as a grid system. Look for planners that have the days of the week going across the top and the subjects vertically down the left side. This specific format will allow her to see her week in its entirety, which is essential when planning time.
  • This is one of my favorite tips! Suggest that your daughter includes a row underneath her listed subjects for “College.” (I tell my student coaching clients that applying to college and all the work that comes with it is equivalent to one of their school subjects.) So, she should tackle this row the same way. Instead of listing her homework and tests, this row will include her plan for essay writing, entrance exam studying, application due dates, and dates for college visits.

[Self-Test: Does My Child Have ADHD?]

2. Set Achievable Goals. We want your daughter to establish realistic plans for completing applications, essays, forms, etc. She is more likely to complete her tasks and feel less inundated if they are broken down into manageable parts. It’s much easier to write one paragraph for an essay in one afternoon than it is to complete the entire Common Application. After she breaks down her work into achievable tasks, have her check her planner for available pockets of time and schedule accordingly.

3. Free Time = Free Gifts. Yes! Free periods, study halls, or a random day off from school are all gifts! And if your daughter is lucky to have them, she should use them appropriately. I always encourage my students to use this uninterrupted time to dive into deep thinking work such as essay writing or studying for exams.

4. Organize the Environment. Summer is the perfect time to set up organizing systems for her bedroom, study area, or backpack. Sort through old homework, tests and papers, and discard anything she no longer needs or wants. Clear out backpacks, inventory school supplies and clothing, and begin making a list of what she needs for the fall. Having all these zones organized and prepped before school will help her focus. Plus, picking out new pens or notebooks is a fun way to get motivated.

5. Install an Organizational System for her college search. It’s easy to get bogged down by the college mailers, supplements, essays, recommendations, and tours that take over the life of a senior. Use a rolling file cart, milk crate, or desktop filing system, making everything easily accessible and visual. Create a file for each school where she can drop any school-specific brochures, supplements, or financial aid information. Include one general file, as well, to keep the things she’ll need for all applications, such as SAT/ACT confirmations and entrance tickets, and Common Application information.

[Free Download: What Are Your Teen’s Weakest Executive Functions?]

6. Check It Off. Staple a checklist for each college that includes the school name, application due dates, requirements for references, essays, art portfolios, financial aid, etc., to the front of each folder. Then transfer all critical dates to her academic planner, so she stays on track. (We have a free downloadable, comprehensive checklist at orderoochaos.com.)

7. Do Your Best Work on Paper. Remember, there is no going back once you hit submit! Print out multiple copies of the Common Application and any supplements required by the colleges she is applying to. Tell your rising senior to answer all the college application questions FIRST on paper, and then type your answers into the online form. If writing isn’t her thing, type it up in a Google or Word Doc (create one for each college, plus one for her Common Application essay) first for easy editing. Bonus Tip! Be mindful of the word and character count. Some essays set a minimum or a maximum number of words; others count characters.

8. Evaluate Your College Visits. My daughter, Madelyn, a college graduate, offers this advice: “Create an evaluation sheet to use as a ‘brain dump’ after each visit. It will not only help you differentiate the information you receive from each information session and campus tour (virtual or in-person) but it will also make space for you to jot down any immediate reactions. Sit somewhere on campus to ‘brain dump’ immediately after the visit while your thoughts are still fresh in your head. This was incredibly helpful when organizing my notes so they would be useful when writing my  supplemental essays and ultimately came in handy when it came time to apply!”

Remember to bring a notebook and the school’s file folder for campus visits and informational sessions. Place any handouts you receive directly into your folder so nothing gets lost. You can quickly transfer the folder back into the file cabinet when you get home or once the appointment ends.

9. Check-In and Balance. I found it very tricky to balance my involvement while my two children completed the college application process. And I’m certainly not alone! My parent coaching clients are all looking for that magic answer: “How much is too much?” “How hands-off should I be?” “Aren’t the stakes too high to leave my child to handle all this independently?” I agree.

Applying to college is a master’s class in organizing materials, managing time, and processing information. Many high school seniors, especially those with attention deficits, plus organization and time-management challenges, need support and scaffolding to get through the process.

Here’s my best advice for senior year: Look at the college application process and everything that goes with it as two separate entities. First, there’s the actual “work” involved — studying for entrance exams, writing essays, etc. Then there’s the organization— filling out endless forms, gathering recommendations, and meeting deadlines. Looking at it from that perspective helped me determine where I was needed most. Did I write my children’s essays? No. They were more than capable of handling that job. However, did I meet with them several times a week to ensure they were on task, meeting deadlines, and not too stressed? You bet.

Those check-in meetings were vital for managing the pressure and making sure they never got too far behind. We started early, checked in often, and could switch gears (or essay topics!) if needed, making sure they felt scaffolded and supported.

Good Luck!

How to Prepare for Senior Year: Next Steps

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“Mamas, Don’t Let Your Babies Grow Up to be Lawyers” https://www.additudemag.com/career-counseling-adhd-kids/ https://www.additudemag.com/career-counseling-adhd-kids/#comments Mon, 28 Feb 2022 13:25:59 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=292034 Those of us with ADHD are good at many things — but finding and sustaining a definitive long-term career path, not so much.

Telling us that “we can be anything we want if we put our minds to it” is akin to dropping us in the middle of the sea and telling us to swim to shore. Michael Phelps could be coaching our strokes, and we still wouldn’t know which direction to swim. Everything would appear the same shade of blue, and we would hyperfocus on the eerie feeling that a shark was lurking nearby, eyeballing us. We could become so confused, intimidated, and paralyzed with indecision that we’d most likely drown.

Parents, don’t despair! You can support your teenager with ADHD and help them figure out a promising profession. As a former teenager with ADHD, who also taught teens with ADHD, I’ve picked up a few lessons along the way for caregivers of adolescents with ADHD.

Career Counseling Tip #1: Love Us

Give your child with ADHD the time they don’t give themselves. Take a keen interest in your children and provide them with a lot of love, imagination, and patience — especially when they’re being annoying or bouncy.

Career Counseling Tip #2: Focus on Who We Are, Not What You Want Us to Be

Focus less on what you want your child to be and more on what job they could be happiest doing in 20 years. I have a friend with ADHD whose mother pushed her into a law career. My friend forced herself through law school and spent 20 years in a job she hated all because her mom saw “lawyer” as a mark of success.

[Read: Abandon Your Pre-Conceived Notions of ‘Success’ (and More Advice for Parents of Teens with ADHD)]

She resented her mom for pushing her down that path and, at 41 years old, finally told her. That’s a tough conversation to have with yourself — let alone your mom. Now, my friend works part-time and uses her extra hours to train herself on her actual interests and is much happier.

Career Counseling Tip #3: Don’t Ask Us What We Want to Be When We Grow Up

Many people with ADHD struggle to accurately imagine the path to long-term success. This is because we only see where we are now (point A) and where we want to be (point C). In the middle is B — a 10-year journey that’s icky and scary and confusing and too long for us to navigate. We keep trying to take the shortcuts from A to C, and then we get dejected when that fails. We need our parents to help us identify what we care about and then guide us down a B path that will stimulate those interests along the way to success.

To figure out the best point C, think about what frequently distracts us when we’re under pressure. How can that “distraction” become something constructive? How do your children make sense of the world when they’re anxious? If your child is distracted by video games, pay attention to the types of games they love and try to understand how they’re engaged in those games. These could translate to benefit their broader learning and career prospects.

Career Counseling Tip #4: Explain the Boring Bits

Children with ADHD need their parents to explain the harsh and dull realities of every dream career. What precisely does it mean when parents say a profession will “be tough” and “hard work?” We’re often more captivated by the prestigious image of ourselves in a near-fictional version than reality. Offer unbiased, recently researched specifics regarding the challenges your child will likely face in that profession; don’t be negative or dissuade them from pursuing their dream, but be honest and provide the accurate information they may have missed so they can weigh up the reality of that commitment.

[Self-Test: Could Your Child Have ADHD?]

(I wish I had received this advice years ago. It could have helped me have more stability, satisfaction, and direction in my professional and private life.)

Career Counseling Tip #5: Interest and Interaction Are Everything

I became a journalist and teacher because of the variety and creativity in my workload. I like adapting and persuading random strangers or overtly powerful people to talk to me about their remarkable experiences. Writing gets my head and the world around me in order, so these two interests align with my career.

My neurotypical ex-girlfriend became a highly successful surgeon because she “was a curious person obsessed with poking and investigating gross pimples, cuts, lumps, and orifices – and not the other way around.” She works seemingly every hour of the day because she cares deeply and has an unyielding fascination and satisfaction in her work.

Parenting Advice #6: Don’t Wait!

We are talented, intelligent, quick, energetic, and creative – undaunted cavaliers in the face of exciting challenges. Basically, there’s nothing we can’t learn as long as it is consistently engaging and interactive (if possible).

Kids with ADHD depend on the people they respect, and they assume these people have an omniscient understanding of who they really are and what’s the best direction for them. (We often don’t catch on that adults are as clueless as we are until it’s too late). Don’t wait! Discuss potential career paths as soon as possible.

Career Counseling: Next Steps


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Q: “Can I Help My Reluctant Learner See the Benefits of College?” https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-reluctant-learner-high-school-college/ https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-reluctant-learner-high-school-college/#respond Tue, 15 Feb 2022 10:25:15 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=290241 Q: “I wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD until age 44. My husband (who likely has undiagnosed with ADHD) and I were both college dropouts. In hindsight, I wish I had graduated. My husband couldn’t care less about earning a college degree. This sends a message to my 11-year-old son that higher education is unnecessary. He has already said that he won’t attend college and hates school. How can I get my reluctant learner to see the benefits of a college education without my husband’s support? I want to help him see that college might sound difficult, but moving through the adult world successfully without a degree could be even harder.” FullhouseADHD

Hi FullhouseADHD,

As an academic and life coach for teens and college students with ADHD, I spend my days talking with high school students about their future plans. Truth be told, I never assume their plans after high school include college. Instead of asking, “What colleges are you thinking of attending?” I prefer to ask, “What are your plans for after graduation?” Plans is the operative word.

I don’t believe that college is for everyone. But I do believe in having a plan. A wise man once told me that experiencing life, working toward a goal, taking care of oneself, learning to problem solve, and becoming a critical thinker were all components of a well-rounded “education.” I absolutely agree.

[Read: You Don’t Have to Start College Right Away (Or At All!)]

Now I’m not saying that college can’t provide that. Quite the opposite. However, there are many other avenues to explore. Trade school, internships, military service, employment, travel, community service, and entrepreneurship can yield the same results.

It’s tempting to lecture our children about the importance of education. Remember, your son is only 11. He’s years away from making any long-term decisions. More importantly, he has many years of learning ahead of him. You mention that he hates school and is a reluctant learner. Let’s shift your energy and focus on figuring out what is getting in his way.

Does your son communicate the sources of his struggles to you? What do you notice when he’s doing homework? Have you discussed your concerns with your son’s teachers? Does your son have a 504 Plan or IEP? And, if so, are his accommodations being followed at school? If not, I would set up a meeting immediately with the school.

Here’s my advice: Put the college conversation on the back burner for the next few years. Instead, focus on ensuring that your son has the support and scaffolding he needs to be an avid and successful learner. Focus his learning on his natural interests and energy, and promote life skills over school skills.

[Free Guide to Securing ADHD Accommodations in College]

And, most importantly, understand that his future won’t be determined solely by this moment.

Good Luck!

Reluctant Learner with ADHD: Next Steps


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“3 Productivity Ahas! for Teens with ADHD” https://www.additudemag.com/productivity-tips-adhd-teens/ https://www.additudemag.com/productivity-tips-adhd-teens/#respond Wed, 24 Nov 2021 10:48:10 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=218590 Teens with ADHD are often mistakenly labeled unmotivated, lazy, or apathetic. But the truth is that most of my teen clients want desperately to understand what it takes to master productivity. They want to understand how to fight back again procrastination, distractibility, and poor time management — and how to get organized with an ADHD brain.

I tell my teens repeatedly: “The more you own your time, the more productive you will be — and the more time you will have for relaxing and socializing!”

Here are three strategies I use with my teen clients to help them get better about owning their time and increasing their productivity.

1. Be super clear about what needs to be done

When I ask my teens about homework, tests, projects, and other upcoming tasks, they often respond with hmms and ums. “Hmm, I’m not sure… I think I have a test this week.” Or “Um… I don’t know… I thought I turned in my homework.” These responses are all big red flags.

[Get This Free Download: Transform Your Teen’s Apathy Into Engagement]

When teens struggle with not knowing when tasks are due, at school or at home, that leaves them in a constant state of worry. All that time they spend ruminating on these tasks eventually leads to stress, anxiety, and shutting down. Not knowing is one of the biggest barriers to productivity.

To help my clients orient themselves, I ask questions that lead to concrete information:

  • “What would it take for you to know?”
  • “Who or what could help you answer this question?”
  • “Does the school or class web page list your test dates?”
  • “What are your responsibilities are at home?”
  • “Tell me your intentions, and be realistic. Don’t tell me what you think I want to hear.”

Facts have a way of stopping the worry and ruminating. When our language is factual, it provides an outlet for action.

2. Time yourself, undistracted

Teens today are bombarded with more distractions than ever before. The dings and pings and texts and DMs are nonstop. It has never been easier to escape a boring homework assignment – for hours at a time.

[Read: How Can I Help My Son Resist the Temptations of His Phone?]

Many of my clients admit to giving in to these distractions, but seldom have any idea how much time they lose to them. One of the most eye-opening self-awareness exercises I have my teens do is track how long it takes to do a task completely undisturbed (that means no multitasking whatsoever). I ask them to grab a timer, and simply log their start and finish times. Though it’s an extra step, they’re often shocked to see that, with non-stop focus, they could finish their math homework in half the usual time – and get to what they really want to do sooner.

3. Environment and movement are key

Where teens do their schoolwork is incredibly important, and can make all the difference in their motivation. I try to help my teens develop the mindset that school is work – and they might not do their best work if they’re in their pajamas and under the bed sheets.

But sitting still at a desk for hours at a time isn’t always motivating or sustainable, either. When energy levels dip and medication starts to wear off, it’s critical that teens get a dopamine fix. For many of my clients, that’s in the form of movement. Standing, stretching, walking, and other short bursts of movement are great for activating focus and resetting the mind.

Many of my clients also work well with light background noise (including a study playlist) as opposed to absolute silence.

It’s my responsibility to ensure the teens in my program understand what gets in the way of productivity. It’s a process that requires a shift in mindset, which takes lots of repetition and encouragement. Though it’s hard work, it all pays off when the end result is a more confident teen taking ownership of their time and energy.

Productivity Tips for Teens with ADHD: Next Steps


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Q: “Can We Adapt the Pomodoro Technique for My Teen with ADHD?” https://www.additudemag.com/pomodoro-focus-breaks-teens-adhd/ https://www.additudemag.com/pomodoro-focus-breaks-teens-adhd/#respond Tue, 09 Nov 2021 10:00:00 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=218060 Q: My son is 13 and needs constant breaks while doing homework. He tells me that he just can’t seem to focus too long on one thing and needs to shut his brain down for a little bit while he’s working.  What does he mean by this? Can you help me to understand?” — MominVA


Hi MominVA:

Kudos to your son for knowing that he needs to “shut down his brain” for short periods of time while doing homework. My feeling is that, if he is sitting in one place for too long without any breaks or effort-level transitions while working, he might be experiencing what I call “brain drain.”

Let me explain.

In my work as an academic/life coach for students with ADHD, I see first-hand that most students can’t keep their brain on a high-effort level (which is what is needed for prolonged homework and studying) for long periods of time. Actually, teachers know this and structure their class time with what I call “low-effort and high-effort” transition points.

Here’s what that may look like.

[Free Download: Smart Homework Strategies for Teachers & Parents]

Your student enters the classroom. They may pick up the “do now” at the front of the room or be given an assignment to work on at their desks while everyone settles in. This requires “a low effort level.” Yes, your student needs to focus, combat distractions, and use working memory skills, however, they don’t need to be listening to a teacher, processing new information, remembering important facts and details, and writing them down all at the same time. These are all challenging executive functioning skills that require a high effort level.

Once the “quiet time” is completed, the teacher transitions the class to high effort level and begins lecturing. This is when your student needs to bring their effort level up high and use all the executive functioning skills I mentioned above. After 20 minutes or so, your student’s teacher may ask the class to finish the assignment at their desk or work with their neighbor or group — another transition to low level. Because the class period is structured with effort level transitions, your student may not feel the need to “shut his brain down” for short periods of time.

The same can be modeled at home. Suggest he start off with an assignment that doesn’t require intense brain power such as simple math computations or vocabulary words. Then he can move on to something that requires more focus and effort such as a writing assignment or studying for an exam. Switching back and forth in this manner will build in those necessary transition points and help his brain stay alert longer.

In addition, make sure your son is getting plenty of breaks so his brain can refuel and refocus. Movement is instrumental for helping us re-energize our brains. If weather permits, have him take his breaks outside while doing an activity. Fresh air instantly adds active energy into his routine, which will keep him motivated and on task.

[Read: Make Homework More Engaging — And Boost Your Child’s Confidence, Too]

Good Luck!

Pomodoro Technique for Students with ADHD: Next Steps


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